A Few Life Lessons

These are some of the things I have learned in Life:

That I love my children without reservation

That I don’t like some of my children‘s actions and deeds, but it never stops my love for them

The failure of two marriages, unfortunately the two that brought my children into being, meant we gave up on ourselves

That I wasn’t in my children‘s lives to guide them into a more positive and productive adulthood

That running away from problems only allows those issues to grow, fester and become larger

Facing problems as they come up is far easier, far more productive, far better all concerned than running away

That I am not perfect but I’ve learned from every mistake and failure and grown into a better person from them

That regardless of what my children do, it never stops my love for them

These are a few things I know:

That my children are a capable and able person who knows right from wrong

That they have abilities and opportunities I never did

That often couples are in love with the idea of what they could have more-so than the reality of what is really there

The only reason people continue to hang on to their “ex” is that they repeatedly allow one to be irresponsible, lie and cheat without consequence

That men that go around getting women pregnant (and women who deceive men into pregnancies) in today’s world and then leave them, face fines, arrears and jail when the law catches up to them

That when a new relationship finds out about old baggage it causes more problems than any ever solved

So, as a father and grand father, this is what I’m willing to do for my children:

Step back* and walk away from the entire issue of their current life struggles and how they are, in my opinion, mishandling it. It hurts me too much to watch my own children, that know better, deliberately destroy a beautiful Life in their children because they don’t want to do what’s right. It’s their choice, not mine. No matter what, I do love my children and grandchildren and will support rightful decisions.

With that said, it doesn’t mean, and never has, that I don’t love my children and wish the very best for them. After all, you both do know right from wrong, good from bad and since you turned 18 has not been my responsibility. 

Love always,

Dad

*Stepping back is often necessary in order to see the whole picture clearly, thus knowing where best to add input!

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